you helping you is actually helping me

i'm coming into mid-terms week. i've got two quizzes and three exams this week. ick!! so, dash has spent a fair amount of time at my place this weekend (his mid-terms were last week), so i could study at home. i got to a point today where i was feeling overwhelmed by everything, and not sure where to start. i expressed this to dash, and he gave me a possible game plan of how i could do things. taking that game plan thought, i started working on my studies. since then, i have accomplished a great deal. he also helped me get my room cleaned (it was his suggestion!!), and helped me get my kitchen clean. i was commenting on how good he's been today, and he said that really he was just helping himself out because the end result is a less stressed jessica. i looked at him and said that, "you helping you is actually helping me." he very tactfully offered some tid-bits of info to me before he left tonight. he helped me realize that when i'm overwhelmed with stress it actually immobilizes me more than i realize. he was really helpful and very observant in his comments. it was pretty amazing to listen to him and realize that he is quite articulate and that for all his memory problems he does actually notice things and really does know me. it's nice to be surprised still.